top of page

Strengthen your self-confidence: Tips and exercises



SUMMARY


Every leader needs self-confidence. In this blog post, you will learn how to build authentic self-confidence on a daily basis.



CONTENT


  • What is self-confidence?

  • Boosting self-confidence: tips and exercises

  • Promoting self-confidence in employees

  • Healthy self-confidence vs. arrogance



WHAT IS SELF-CONFIDENCE?


Self-awareness means being aware of yourself. On the one hand, this means being aware of and accepting your own thoughts and feelings. On the other hand, the term is colloquially equated with self-assurance and self-confidence in one's own abilities.


Strictly speaking, however, these are already the results of self-awareness and the self-knowledge gained from it. For an easier understanding of the following tips, we use the word self-confidence in the sense in which it is colloquially understood.



BOOSTING SELF-CONFIDENCE: TIPS AND EXERCISES


If you only focus on how you look to others, you will create a fake self-confidence - a façade that other people can see through. We give you tips for everyday life to promote your authentic self-confidence because many entrepreneurs still have some catching up to do.


1. Practice mindfulness

The better you get to know yourself through mindfulness, the clearer you will become about who you are, what makes you tick, what is important to you and what you don't like. You will also learn what inner goals drive you and what you want from life.


You can achieve this awareness through meditation, for example. In doing so, you observe your thoughts and feelings like a spectator observing a play. Practising this regularly frees you from automated, unconscious patterns of thought and action so that you become a little freer and more self-reflective every day.


2. Practice self-love

Self-love grows out of the insights gained through mindfulness. When you get to know yourself better, you recognise what is good for you and where you can deal with yourself even better. This self-care can be applied in everyday life, for example, when eating: How do you feel after eating a frozen pizza? And how do you feel when you eat a fresh salad on another day?


Entrepreneurs and managers in particular have an inner driver that makes them perform at their best. But this inner driver also has a dark side: it is usually quite ungracious towards supposed weaknesses and flaws. But this is poison for a friendly approach to yourself and a healthy self-confidence.


Therefore, treat yourself more kindly by


  • Smiling at yourself in the mirror in the morning,

  • learning positive beliefs,

  • Eating healthy foods,

  • Getting enough sleep (7-8 hours) and

  • Allowing yourself short breaks.


The more of these building blocks you integrate into your life, the greater your self-confidence will automatically become.


Self-love also includes remaining benevolent and friendly with yourself when something has not gone well or you have made a mistake. No one is helped if you condemn yourself when things go wrong; on the contrary, a harsh attitude towards yourself reduces motivation and leads us to tackle problems with less vigour.


3. Keep a straight posture

Keep your back straight and meet the gaze of others: Posture reveals a lot about whether a person is confident or not. More than our speech does, for example, as the iceberg model impressively illustrates. Therefore, pay attention to appropriate body language.


4. Practising Rhetoric

Rhetorical talents have a particularly self-confident effect on their fellow human beings. This includes clear language, but also the right intonation and stylistic devices in the form of rhetorical questions. Learn more about the areas of application of rhetoric including tips here.


5. Exercise

An old saying goes: A healthy mind in a healthy body.


You can also promote self-confidence by exercising and strengthening your body. Make exercise a regular part of your life. At least twice a week, make time to get on your bike, go to the gym, go for a swim or something else. Try different sports to find the one that suits you best.


6. Step out of your comfort zone every day

Especially self-confident people try something new every day: They cook a previously unknown recipe, call a new client or test an alternative way to get to work. So it becomes a habit to leave your comfort zone, which in turn leads to you becoming more and more aware and competent. Trying new things and making courageous action a routine will give your self-confidence a big boost.


7. Showing up for who you are - always

For today's working world, there are many tip articles that revolve around recognising other people's wants and needs and tactically acting accordingly. Shifting perspectives makes sense, but behaving like a flag in the wind is not very self-confident.


You show greatness and strength when you are truthful, i.e. when you communicate your thoughts, views and intentions authentically. Some people will take offence, but that is what self-confidence is all about: standing up for yourself, regardless of personal advantages or disadvantages. This is how you will gain the respect of those around you.


8. Enjoy the journey

Self-confidence is a matter of attitude: how we look at life and our work has a decisive influence on how we feel. If you're only looking for the results, you'll miss out on the journey. Give yourself and your team permission to grow through the daily challenges. Work with Scrum or Designing Thinking to constantly improve processes. Allow yourselves to enjoy the process of creation and celebrate partial successes together - for example with a small team event.



PROMOTE SELF-CONFIDENCE AMONG EMPLOYEES


If you succeed in boosting your own self-confidence, you can next turn your attention to supporting your employees.


Your chance as a manager is to recognise the potential of your team and to encourage each individual in their work.

Some bosses fall into a trap when it comes to managing staff: they see employees as personnel who are only supposed to do unpleasant or annoying tasks. The exciting projects are reserved for the management. Depending on the position, this can lead to frustration and even burnout. Employees no longer like to perform and may even leave the company.


It is better, in the medium and long term, to promote the self-confidence of employees, to encourage them to develop further, and to do so with these two pillars:


Delegate properly

You promote the confidence of your employees if you delegate tasks to them in a respectful and collegial manner and also hand over responsibility. Find out how to do this in our guide to delegation.


Giving feedback

How you give feedback determines whether you strengthen or weaken an employee's self-confidence. Do you brush them off when they make a mistake or do you only focus on what went wrong when giving feedback? That will certainly not boost the other person's self-confidence. The extent to which it actually decreases also depends on the employee's inner attitude towards his or her own abilities and performance.


In any case, it is better to give feedback constructively. This way you focus on what can go better in the future and boost the employee's self-confidence.



HEALTHY SELF-CONFIDENCE VS. ARROGANCE


The two are often confused, but the phenomena couldn't be further apart.


  • Healthy self-confidence is characterised by inner security and firmness. Furthermore, you have a good, healthy sense of your self-worth.

  • Arrogant people feel exactly the opposite: they feel insecure, and their self-esteem is unstable, which is supposed to conceal a put-on self-confidence. This can go as far as pronounced narcissism, in which a false sense of grandeur is built up and artificially inflated.


Of course, there are many nuances and shades, because everyone has more or less pronounced narcissistic parts in their psyche. Nor does an arrogant reaction necessarily mean that the person has low self-esteem. Even conscious people say things they regret from time to time. If this does not happen every day and you can reflect on your slips as well as apologise honestly to other people, this also speaks for a healthy self-confidence.

Comments


bottom of page